Sunday, July 12, 2009

Kathryn Hobson's Best Week Ever

So this week has definitely been one of firsts and inconsequentially has also been one of the best and most interesting of my life.

Mon.
Normal day

Tues.
My mother tore her achilles tendon and so I had to pick her up from the dr. after she had a shot in her heel. This did not add to the best week ever, but definitely the craziest.

Weds.
Lily Mountain
I decided to go on a nice fairly easy hike this morning. Hoping to get both my dog and myself out of the house (yes I hike alone or with dog) I decided on a trail that is in National Forest Land. It was a challenging ascension but towards the top it becomes so worth it. The last third of a mile maybe is all rocks-like large boulders. I usually don't let Indigo off leash but there was no way to scramble up the mountain holding the leash. So we both climbed to the top and I was so proud of myself. I mean I had literally just climbed up my first mountain-and alone and with my dog not running away. And I just stood there looking out at this amazing view and all I could think was wow! I did this! I got bored waiting for other people to hike with that I finally just went and it was so great.

Lily Mtn p. II
The way down was significantly more frightening. I decided to follow my dog because she seemed to know the best/easiest way down from the Boulders and so it seemed like a good plan. So I followed her until I realized all of a sudden that we were no longer on the trail and in fact I had no idea where we were. I had no idea which direction we had come from (except for up) and had no idea how to get back to the trail. Luckily I had phone service (yes most the trails I hike do) and I called Little Boats and was like I am lost. I have the dog but she keeps looking at me like where are we? Where do we go? So how do we get down from here. Luckily she gave me some tips and I attempted to scale down the mountain-off the beaten path. Mind you I am wearing Chacos the whole time and trying to balance while on steep parts of the mtn. Needless to say I ended up sliding portions down on my @$$ and ended up ripping the entire seat out of my pants so that they became a form of @$$-less chaps. It was the most frightening and yet exhilarating thing of my whole life. And I made it down. Well Indigo led me back to the trail after having a near run-in with poison ivy, scaling down rocks, sliding down rocky hills, and eventually ending by falling on/over a tree acquiring a large splinter. So I escaped with only minor gashes, bruises, and scrapes to most of my body but we made it both up and down.

Boyztown
Later that night I drove down to Denver to meet friends and ended up eating, drinking, and later going to the (gay) male strip club, Boyztown. Well let me tell you that I felt totally out of element, however, following their lead, I decided to try to relax and have a good time. I have never sexualized men's bodies before, always thinking, that while there are attractive men in the world, I am just not attracted to them. But I can't lie, there were some truly beautiful and sexy men at this club. Although the club itself is a lil' skeezy. So sipping on my Miller Lights, and feeling like I walked into some sort of strange dream, I was approached by one man in particular. Beautiful. That's all I can say. Beautiful. And for some reason he liked me. Guys like him, never go for women like me. Normal sized women, normal looking women. And I was so flattered that I found myself unable to tell him that I was gay and in a relationship. I found myself in this strangely liminal space of excitement yet utter fear. And I didn't want it to stop. Although I realized later after his attempts to pursue me, that ethically I should have told him. But I wanted to live out a fantasy in the land of fantasy. And I tell you what it was the largest ego enhancer I have had in awhile. Sad it had to happen because of a man, but hey, some are hot. And I'll take that.

Thurs.
After rushing up the mountain on only four hours of sleep, I managed somehow to babysit, although pretty poorly. It did involve a lot of television. Sorry A's.

Rockies Game
That night I has plans to go to a Rockies game with my dad and his brothers. I don't spend a ton of time with that side of my family. Partially because I am not invited a whole lot. So I was so glad to get to spend some time with them. It was really pretty fun and a good game too. Although baseball is not my favorite sport, I found myself able to get into it. And of course what is a baseball game with out stadium food? So that was pretty great too. Just the smells even. And the Rockies won against the Braves, which, didn't hurt either.

Fri.
Facebook
So I had always sworn that I wouldn't get Facebook because I had so many issues with Myspace and thought FaceBook was just so lame. However, I had sort of been thinking of joining because it seemed interesting and fun, especially now that I don't have a real job, and do have lots of time. So I joined and immediately had friends waiting for me. And it is kind of fun also a little bit addicting. So I am only allotting myself a certain amount of time with it throughout the day. I don't want to worry about what I will miss on Facebook and end up missing out on in life. But you can find me and be my friend now.

Gem Lake
Friday I hiked Gem Lake with a new friend and it was a very nice, "moderate" hike (as she and I like to call it.) Although the steps towards the top were kind of rough, I didn't know anything of steps until the next day. But once we got to the summit, we were able to take a break by the lake and chill out for awhile. We got some great pictures-I love that about KN, she loves pictures and I hate them. So I'll let her take them and send them to me.

Big Smith
That night Little Boats and I decided to head down to Ye Old Rock Inn after eating Indian Food to see the rockin' rootsy, blue-grassy, Missouri, zydeco sounds of Big Smith. And it was a great show. I love their music-it is so fun to just romp to. And the place wasn't too crowded so romping was possible. And Little Boats' roommate was here from Telluride and he is so rad and just sweet and fun. It is a week of reunions that is for sure.

Sat.
Chataqua
Saturday morning I woke up and drove to Boulder to meet my good college friend Jo to hike in Boulder. Well we did hike a short ways, but it was like 95 degrees, sweltering hot. And the trail we picked had huge never ending stairs. So I whimped out like a mile and a half up the trail-my calves were still dead from Weds. near run-in with death. But we had such great conversation and so much fun to just spend some time together. Much needed time.

Rock Creek
Last night finished off with a nice jaunt down to the AP to camp at Rock Creek. It was a great one night car camping trip. And we got to bust out our new tent and although we forgot the fire wood we were able to collect enough to make a pretty decent fire. We grilled and just had an excellent time.

Sun.
Meadow Mtn.
So today after waking up by a river Little Boats and I headed to one of our fave places in the whole world: the Meadow Mtn. Cafe. It is this quaint little cafe in AP, where you share tables with strangers and eat some amazing non-greasy breakfast and lunch food. The best thing about it was its new deck arrangement-sort of like a garden with lots of beautiful flowers, cool hanging art pieces. The people are friendly, the food is good-need I say more. And right down the road is the beautiful fresh spring of water where you can go and get the most AmAzing water. No plastic bottles just fresh pure mountain spring water.

We finished the night with Little Boats' bff rolling in from Steamboat and going to his brother's house where we ate some fresh elk burgers and were able to enjoy their mountain property.
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So my week has been a bit crazy and I am so close to being almost done for. I do have an interview with a rafting company this week, but we'll see. I will honestly say this summer not working has been the best thing of my whole life. I don't remember not working during high school, college, grad school. Always working, because that's what people have to do. That is one thing I love, people up here don't always work, or they don't work to make money. They make enough money to survive while doing what they love. It is neat to be a part of and I don't want to lose it but know that I will eventually. Until then...I keep playing!


Saturday, July 11, 2009

i did it

i did it...i broke down and got facebook. i wasn't going to-ever, I hate the facebook. it is a crazy maker. but once my dad, uncle, and brother told me they were on it i decided it was time. iam a sell-out. officially speaking.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Video from Perez Hilton

So I watched this video that Perez Hilton put up on Twitter and thought it was very interesting. It is a video of some urban black youth harassing a twenty to thirty-something white gay man.

watch the video:





I think the power differentials going on here are very interesting. Of course I am against hate speech towards the gays but I don't think that it is necessarily fair to show the youth in the video in this way. I am not going to write a whole heck of a lot about it here...I just don't have the energy, but I would hope that people wouldn't see this and automatically assume that all black people are like this and hate the gays because I just don't think that's true, especially because I saw so many queers of color at PRIDE in Denver this weekend. But I have a feeling that videos like this one are problematic in perpetuating racial and class stereotypes. But I do think the guy experiencing the harassment has at the very least waaaaaaay more patients and guts to stay quiet then say me. Non-confrontational has never been my style.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Movies

One movie I hate, one movie I love:

He's Just Not That Into You
Rating: Double/Triple Bleh

This was one of the dumbest movies I have ever seen. I get so frustrated with all of these supposed post-feminist, women inspiring, girl-power movies that end up falling flat on the face of women's liberation and feminism. Why is it that in the end everyone ends up generally in a relationship (it isn't just this movie I'm thinking Sex and the City also) like being alone isn't a satisfying enough choice? This movie is a projection of women's insecurities around being alone, and while being in love is like an accessory to your girlfriends, what do the women in this movie talk to their girlfriends about? Love, marriage, men, relationships, not giving up on finding love, all of this stuff that-many things women pretend are not significant, yet give all significance to. All the while this movie appears that the women are somewhat in control of this, their discussions about these things liberate them, but they don't. Instead all of the women are at the mercy of the men in their lives. And the storyline I felt was actually good between Jennifer Aniston and Ben Affleck totally succumbs to the whole heterosexual life pattern although they supposedly were going to be fine not being married and going through the whole production of marriage. This movie was about a half-hour too long, and yes it's one of those movies where they showed all the good parts in the previews.

Everything Relative
Rating: Three Whoots

I think maybe I have written about this movie before but I don't remember-either way it deserves its praise here. This independent lesbian film is truly a classic of queer cinema. As with most lesbian movies it is full of cheesy dialogue and awkward moments, but that is what makes it great. This movie isn't trying to be something it's not, instead it wants to focus on issues faced by a group of friends who were old college friends, detailing the ways in which they used to be on the front-lines of political activism but have now had to convert to making their personal lives the root of their politics. It drags up issues from the past between the friends who were once lovers, reluctance of some to be fully out, dealing with death, the straight woman's attempt to become pregnant, dealing with families, loss, grief, and memory. And of course in true old-school (and for some more modern) lesbian fashion it is complete with sing-alongs and vibrators. I'm not gonna say this is a great work of cinematography and movie-making, but the plot is there, it has the potential to be very relate-able, and it does get political, in that it talks about race (although the majority of the main cast is white though Jewish), the religious right, class, sexuality, abortion, coming-out...all interesting stuff. Anyway, I loved it wish I would have watched it sooner than I had, and it will continue to be on my top list of lesbo films from now on.
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Clip from Everything Relative


Thursday, June 18, 2009

Elk Calf Goes to Preschool

The following video is of my preschool and a baby elk that was born right by it a couple of weeks ago now. I think it is cute and funny and you can actually see me (as if that were the most important thing) in the background of the "teacher" shot. I will probably never see an elk calf and cow that close again in my life and I actually have some great photos of it suckling the mama and the mama stepping on its head (it was an accident.) So enjoy!




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Monday, June 15, 2009

Meg Hutchinson

So I recently made two awesome cd's for people-because that's what I do...

An artist recommended for my tastes via Itunes Genius was Meg Hutchinson. Granted I am always leery about recommendations but I really like what she has to offer. Simple lyrics (I am a lyrics girl for sure) about simple natural landscapes and elements. Two of my favorite songs of hers are I'd Like to Know Someone and Seeing Stars. I think Seeing Stars is one of those songs that describes a moment when you realize you are generally content and able to see something beautiful among everything that makes you upset, makes you feel violated, or insignificant in some way. I think that readily describes my move from Columbus, a grand city with many fine offerings, but also lonliness, sadness, and depression to Colorado. I can't say that my entire time has been easy or peaceful, there are so many moments when life is not these things-no matter where I am, but at least I can plant a garden, go hang out at the lake with Little Boats, take my dog somewhere nice-like my porch, and see something beautiful. And in these moments I feel the utmost queer sensation-happiness and pleasure. Things I write about but quickly dismiss when it doesn't relate to sexuality or orientation or desire. But what about peace, isn't it queer to feel peace? To feel joy when queer people are told they shouldn't? Is desire for happiness synonymous with conformity? I have to believe it isn't for my own sanity.

So I offer two songs by Meg Hutchinson that give me peace, make me think of good friends and the fortune of simplicity.

Seeing Stars

Bugs out on the water, make it look like rain
Leaves on every tree, once again turning
Summer’s past but it’s never far
If you look real close you might see scars
But me, yeah me I’m only seeing stars

Evening light, on a gravel path
I could be scared but I’ve had enough of that
Oh, big old moon, rising up
Even in this light you might see scars
But me, yeah me I’m only seeing stars

When they take everything
And you’ve got nothing left
A deer in the headlights in your hospital bed
Just dreaming of a simple life
A gentle man, a solid night
Me and the dog, down at the reservoir
If you look real close you might see scars
But me, yeah me I’m only seeing stars
Oh…

Seems all your songs are about leaving
Seems both your hands are about now
Geese up in the sky, home through the dark
If you look real close you might see scars

But me, yeah me I’m only seeing stars





and...
I'd Like to Know Someone

I’d like to know someone
Who’s known months without sun
I’d like to know someone
Who’s learned how to sleep
When the night’s still bright
I’d like to know someone
Who comes from the mountains
Like a wall against my waves
I’d like to know someone
Who knows the quiet time
After the song is sung

Cause I’m quick to love
Quicker to tire
I’m looking for a slower burn
A better kind of fire

I’d like to know someone
With music in their lungs
I’d like to know someone
Who lets stuff off the hook
Throw back the little ones

And when you’re not afraid to stay
I won’t be afraid of morning
And when you’re not afraid to say
I’ll never be afraid, to listen

I’d like to know someone
Who knows I came undone once
I’d like to know someone
Who knows deep where they come from


Tuesday, June 9, 2009

continuing...

12.) gardening-I really love this past time although I thought I never would. I am not a big fan of worms but I can deal with them to fill in the pit outside my house with flowers. Yay!!! Summer time and gardening.

11.) Yoga in the morning. As with sun salutation yoga in the morning is awesome. It is actually helping my back, calming my tension. This may have to be one that continues into the next school year.