Fergie...what

So I have liked the songs Big Girls Don't Cry for awhile now. For as heterosexual, as normative, and as possibly and probably exploitative of women as this song is-I am so glad to finally hear a song about a woman who takes control of her life. It's a personal choice to take a risk and try new things and I hate that almost all break-up songs are so sad and from the perspective of the broken up with. It isn't super fun being the breaker either people. And we rarely celebrate women taking control of their own destinies and doing what is best for them and not their family, husband, children, job etc...Of course this contradicts with an earlier post about duty being an admirable trait-but in this case Fergie-I salute you-you made the best coice you could given the situation you were in (Candies underpants and all!) Of course it kind of sucks that it is Fergie who brings us this inner monologue of a chick going through a break-up because she wants to do what is best for herself. And she's going to miss her partner but she needs to do some personal growth too...I like to imagine that someone like Sarah McLachlan is doing this song so that I could actually admit to liking it and not be like a total post-feminist a-hole! Or maybe a nice mountain songstress will do a rendition similar to say "Umbrella..."

So here goes...I like Fergie, I like this song, I am not afraid anymore...

oh and the guy from heroes is in the video and HELLO...he can fly (not in the video but on Heroes...) and I think the song is also kind of about masturbation...which I am all about!!

the video--

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the lyrics
La Da Da Da Da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your home town
I need some shelter of my own protection baby
To be with myself and Center, Clarity
Peace, Serenity

[CHORUS:] [I like to scream this part]-emphasis mine...
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightening out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

The path that I'm walking
I must go alone
I must take the baby steps 'til I'm full grown, full grown
Fairytales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay

[CHORUS:]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightening out to do
[Big Girls Don't Cry lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]

And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry

Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and UNO cards
I'll be your best friend and you'll be mine Valentine
Yes you can hold my hand if you want to
'Cause I want to hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers and share our secret worlds
But it's time for me to go home
It's getting late, dark outside
I need to be with myself and Center, Clarity
Peace, Serenity

[CHORUS]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightening out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

La Da Da Da Da Da
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don't make fun of me...too bad