It is amazing that as a single gal, I now appreciate Sex and the City in a very different way. This is not to say I glorify, or idealize it, more or less, it is still problematically white, upperclass, post-feminst, feminism, surrounded by the potential for some female empowerment. Potential mind you.
What I notice most now, is how the break up story lines play out. In some situations, people who are dating just stop calling and it's over-poof. Other relationships like Carrie/Big or Carrie/Aidan have a bit more in depth look into the break up. I don't necessarily look for advice or the word of God or anything-but there are some parallels especially between my break up and the second break-up of Carrie and Big. It's apropos really.
In the final ep of season 2, Carrie poses the question: Can you be friends with an ex? And since I am currently in that state of affairs (trying to say friends, while still feeling emotionally exhausted from the relationship) I have to wonder something similar. I feel like I want to be the cool chick who gets it (it's best for both of us blah blah blah) but, how can a friendship happen, when the pain hasn't even subsided? And how can you let something go that is so ever-present in your life? If one person is set on releasing, while the other wants accountability and acknowledgement for the hurt that has been caused, is it possible to continue along with any sort of relationship? At 3 weeks and a day post- break-up, is it too soon to move from Romantic Love-ville to Friend City U.S.A.?
No answers yet, but I am posting this videos which I love from both SatC and The Way We Were
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